A sexual fantasy can be a powerful thought process that allows us to drift off and daydream ad infinitum. It could be as short as a split second as a passing image provokes an erotic thought. It could take a more indulgent form as we write it down, research about it or create an alter ego online in which we become something other than our conscious self.
Erotic fantasies can take many forms, each stimulating the flow of chemicals that create sexual arousal.
Our fantasies are always in our mind-an enclave in our daily consciousness ….. They are always waiting for an opportunity to create the perfect coup in our daily routine of the mundane.
Fantasies allow us the chance to experience freedom and sometimes they are the only true freedom we have.
In the sublime, hedonistic world of fantasia, we can unashamedly become the ultimate sexual being, in whatever form we choose. We create our own private Sexual Theatre of the Mind-a show we can take part in, direct, produce or end when we choose to.
There is no audience in the Sexual Theatre of the Mind. No-one to cast judgement or write a review of your performance that can be read by all outside your consciousness.
Fantasies are safe, they are freedom, and create a euphoric state of mind that can teach us things about ourselves that we are not aware of in reality.
The strength, power and sense of well-being that we experience in our alter ego state of fantasy is very similar to positive visualisation therapy.
The positive facts of fantasies-
“Thoughts about love or sex make the mind more creative or analytical.” Scientific American report;
Fantasizing about sex gets more than just your juices flowing—it also boosts your analytical thinking skills. Daydreaming about love, on the other hand, makes you more creative, according to a study published in the November 2009 Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.
Previous research suggests that our problem-solving abilities change depending on our states of mind and that love—a broad, long-term emotion—triggers global brain processing, a state in which we see the big picture, make broad associations and connect disparate ideas. Sex, on the other hand—more specific and here and now—initiates more local processing, in which the brain zooms in and focuses on details. Researchers at the University of Amsterdam, University of Groningen and Jacobs University Bremen wondered whether thinking about love might actually help people perform better on creative tasks, whereas imagining sex might prime people to do better on tasks requiring analytical thinking.
The researchers asked 30 subjects to imagine a long, loving walk with their partners and asked 30 others to think of casual sex with someone they did not love. Then they gave the subjects cognitive tests. As predicted, the love-primed ones performed much better on creative tasks and scored worse on analytical questions, whereas the reverse was true of those who thought about sex. The researchers also subliminally primed a separate group of subjects to think about love or sex and got similar results.
“I was surprised about the strength of the effects,” says author Jens Förster, a social psychologist at the University of Amsterdam. The researchers wonder whether the “big picture” perspective that lovebirds share strengthens their relationship, too, by helping couples overlook personal weaknesses and daily hassles.
So there we have it !!! Our dark little secrets actually have a very strong effect on our ever waning grey matter.
However, where our fantasies originate from is another topic altogether
My theory is that our sexual fantasies are influenced and created by three factors.
- The PAST. Made up of our minds eye memories, experiences, thought processes and our reactions to situations
- The ever changing “NOW” or” in the moment consciousness “
- The hope, drive, anticipation and fear of the FUTURE,
The fantasies that we have are made up of all these three factors and, later in the month, I will write a little more about these contributory factors-in the meantime, keep the Sexual Theatre of the Mind alive and the brain buzzing!.